Those I call friends

I believe there is a difference between a pretty woman and a phenomenal woman. Pretty women there are many, we cross paths with them everyday. A pretty woman may turn every head when she walks into a room but when you get to know her to know whats in her heart and mind what are her intentions do you find her to only be pretty? Or do you find that she is more than just a pretty face. We are all judged, more often than not most harshly judged buy ourselves. I look at the women in my life all different, all unique, all exquisite, all beautifully made & I know those I call friends are all not only pretty but they are ALL phenomenal women. I am truly blessed and grateful for each and every one of them 

Live without regret!!!!!!!

The only thing in life worse than failure is regret. When it is all said and done we will not look back and regret loving hard, or forgiving to much. We will not regret the things we have done. We will only regret the things we never had the courage to do. You can learn alot more from loss than you can through victory. So always do your very best to Dream Big & Live Large. Live everyday without regret. Help those in need. Love those around you especially those who anger you. Live each and every day to the fullest and as it truly were your last. This is the performance of our lives, not a dress rehearsal.

To those in my life thank you for being you!!!

Be Happy

Life is to short to be anything but happy. Smile at every person you cross paths with. Help others even if it doesn't benefit you & remember everyone has their own battles there dealing with so give each other a break.

What Is A Frienemy

1.)A "toxic" person who poses as a friend but subconsciously or consciously wishes you harm.

2.)A person who you treat and whom treats you as a friendbut if they are given a chance would "cut your throat" or get one over on you/put themselves first if it would benifit themselves, or they would gain an advantage over you. Similar to an enemy.

3.)An enemy who uses friendship to conceal their attacks.

4.)A low self-esteemed person who gets close to others for social gain, money,to steal.

5.)A enemy disguised as an friend; an enemy pretending to be a friend

6.)Someone who's guts you hate allconsumingly and bitterly but with which you also have highly fascinating and fulfilling conversations with.

7.)The type of "friend" whose words or actions bring you down.(whether you realize it as intentional or not) The type of friend you ought to cut off but don't cuz they're nice good you've had good times with them. U know they're good people that you can count on to bring you down again sometime in the near future.The friend you may or may not have cornered about their quicksand like ways and keep around because "its in the past"...and so was one minute ago. The person that will continue to bring you down until you demand better for yourself.

8.)A "friend" a "bad friend" who cares only about themselves. A friend who gets their way no matter the cost, and who they step on along the way. One might stay in a "frenemy" situation because they are fearful of this person. Also known as a toxic friendship.

Long story short a frienemy is a person with whom you may have a lot of fun and/or a lot in common, who also has a vile and random dark side. These relationships are worth doing a cost/benefit analysis on. Also, limiting relationships with frenemies to non-SO relationships is a must. Why? Because it’s ultimately all about them after all, and you will need to be in a position to get away from them for indefinite periods of time.  If this happens, don‘t expect everyone to get it—some will wonder why this person enrages you so much and others will wonder what you see in them.It is recommended for your own safety/sanity that you limit yourself to one frenemy at any given time in your life. I personaly think if you have one ride yourself. Life is to short to waste on fake people with fake intentions and ulterior motives.Surround yourself with love and nourishment and do not allow the creation of negativity in your environment.

Advice to a friend

We all mess up, I do daily sometimes all day and I hope when I do people forgive me with the same measure I forgive them. Remember no one can upset you or make you unhappy without your permission. You can't control what people do but you can control how you react. You can't let people in life bother you. There will always be someone there more than happy to knock you down and steal your happiness. Don't ever let them. No matter who they are. God didn't put you on this earth to be unhappy. The best way to deal with them is just be nice. That is the very best cure for a jerk. A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort ;~) I promise!!!!! 

We all get what we give

We all get what we give. I never seek to get even with anyone, EVER! I know God's justice is far better than mine could ever be. I have faith in him & those I love. And I know those meant to be in my life will always be in my life. I'm in my thirties not my twenties I don't buy into these high school games. I know everything in life happens for a reason & even in tough spots keep safe in my heart that God always has my best interest at heart. I stay in his light & everything will work out for the best. The right thing is far from the most popular & sometimes a very hard lonely path. I'm true to my heart. And I love those around me enough to make them be true to theirs! Part of loving yourself means accepting every part of your you, the light and the dark. We are a wonderful amalgamation of love, spirit, thoughts, emotions, good habits, bad habits, personality quarks, dreams and intentions. To deny any part of that is to deny the miracle that is you. Freedom and happiness come when you give up the illusion of trying to be perfect so you can finally just be yourself. I am myself always! Those that love me love that! Those that truly love me I don't need to worry about they will always be there when the dust settles from a storm. Those who I can't see simply weren't meant to be!

What life's about.

Life isn't about keeping score. It's not about how many people call you and it's not about who you've known, know now, or haven't known at all. It isn't about who you've kissed, what you drive, or how much money you make. It's not about your shoes, bags or your hair or the color of your skin or where you live or go to church. In fact, it's not about status, money, clothes, or sexuality. Life isn't about if you have lots of friends, or if you are alone, and it's not about how accepted or unaccepted you are. Life just isn't about that. But life is about who you love and who you hurt. It's about how you feel about yourself. It's about trust, happiness, and compassion. Life is about avoiding jealousy, overcoming ignorance, and building confidence. It's about what you say and what you mean. It's about seeing people for who they are and not what they have. Most of all, it is about choosing to use your life to touch someone else's in a way that could never have been achieved otherwise. These choices are what life's about.